The Conversation

Uncompromising Loyalty

Principles of Counsel that do not bend

As a confidant, I am aware that I am not free from my own perspectives or patterns. Yet there are principles that guide my work – principles that do not bend.

I am partisan

I stand with you as an advocate stands with a client – uncompromisingly on your side, and with full respect for the framework you move within.

That loyalty is not about holding you in place, and not about agreeing at any price; it is a commitment to clarity – even when clarity requires pointing out conflicting points of view. It means standing by your side as you choose what to keep and what to transform.

Not blindly, but clearly. Not neutral, not distant, not disengaged.

When we speak, there is no method to complete and no plan to endure. There is only our conversation – and the certainty that I enter your perspective fully. I listen not to judge, but to understand. I think with you, not about you, and never to fit you into a template.

To be partisan means taking your perspective seriously, honouring your experience, and creating a space in which your truth has weight.

I am biased

Biased – because I know that every person carries something singular within them, even when they cannot feel it or would deny it.

This is not optimism, not courtesy, but the ground I stand on. Decades of listening have taught me that every story contains something worth honouring. Even the decision to enter this conversation is already an act of courage and dignity.

To be biased means seeing the person first – not the problem, not the façade, not the label. And in this space, that singularity is present from the first moment.

I am forgetful.

I am forgetful because it protects you. I work without any personal records. What remains is not data, but thought – the only resonance of our encounter.

I am stubborn

Stubborn – because I follow my own compass, not the drift of fashion.

For me, that means thinking for myself, questioning, and refusing to be carried by the noise of the moment. Psychology – like all science – is not free from influence. Without stubbornness, it loses depth and variety.

I listen, I examine, and I act according to what serves you and your concern – even when it runs against the current. Stubbornness, for me, is not rigidity but integrity: choosing from conviction, not convenience.

I am slow

Slow – because the right answer matters more than the first.

In a world that mistakes speed for progress, I pause: to listen, to let thoughts settle, to allow new connections to form. I do not push for quick solutions when the right ones are still taking shape. Experience confirms what research has long suggested: the essential work often happens in the moments that feel like pauses – when the conscious mind steps back and the deeper layers begin to work.

Neuroscience indicates that speed can shape perception and memory – especially when interpretations arrive too early or questions carry suggestions within them. Measured, unhurried interpretation protects clarity.

Slowness also means refusing premature classifications. I have spoken with people of all kinds – including the unconventional and the highly individual – and the quick reflex would be to place them in boxes. Slowness allows understanding. That, to me, is real tolerance – not the indifference sometimes mistaken for it today.

Time is a deeply relative thing when the answer must be right.

I am not for hire

I am not for hire. Our conversation begins when we both decide it should exist. That choice is part of its integrity – and the reason it can be unlike any other.

Clarity as a Stance

Language requires clarity. Not terms that create distance, but words that open.

Many phrases sound weighty, yet leave people without orientation. They generate fog where a view would be possible. That feels unnecessary.

A thought is only truly understood when it can be expressed in an image that makes immediate sense.

There are many ways to explain why certain worries grow louder at night. But often an image says more than a model: an inner office that brings forward what remains unfinished the moment we become still. An image anyone can grasp — and one that already carries the path to a solution within it.

Such images are not simplifications. They are a form of precision. They reveal what would otherwise remain abstract. They create access without reducing. They make shared thinking possible.

Everyday language is not a style but a standard. It shows whether a thought has substance.

And it ensures that we speak about the same thing — not about two versions of the same idea.

Open‑Source Psychology

In open‑source psychology, it becomes transparent why a method or perspective might be helpful – on which assumptions it rests, and what it truly means. What makes a method valuable is not the concealment of its origin, but the clarity of its effect.

My guests make their decisions on an informed basis. This is essential, because the subject is nothing less than their own psyche.

Not: “Try this, it has often helped.” But: “This could help – and I will show you why.”

Seeing Function, Not Fault

Every concern has its history – and often a function that remains hidden at first glance.

I always look for what such a state achieves. This does not mean we glorify it – it means we understand it. Anyone who tries to dissolve what still carries a vital function within the system will either meet resistance or risk making the situation worse.

This perspective changes much. It honours what is often overlooked: the adaptability of the psyche under pressure.

A state may be challenging – yet it loses its label as “malfunction.” It reveals itself instead as an emergency mode, a protective response, an attempt to remain capable under difficult conditions. Not perfect, but functional. And worthy of recognition, not dismissal.

Like a temporary structure that carries us safely until something stronger is ready, even a burdensome state often fulfils an important task. Whoever understands this protective role builds new supports before dismantling the old – and creates change that endures.

Limiting Beliefs

I work with inner convictions – especially those that guide us without ever having been consciously chosen. They decide more than we realise: self‑image, scope of action, sense of life. Often they are like guardrails – only we stand on the wrong side of them. They hold us back, restrict us, mislead us.

Some people experience good times as harbingers of misfortune. Others see age not as a number, but as a threshold to illness and decline. Such convictions act – and they act against us.

What was my neighbour telling me when he remarked: “It has been suspiciously good for me for quite a while now.”

I work with an approach that recognises such patterns, weakens them, and sometimes dissolves them entirely. It is open, transparent, and explainable – open‑source psychology in practice. I will gladly show it to you when we meet.

We Have Only Spoken …

Above all, my work is about conversing with you – my guests. That is more important than any method. Methods may step into the background once we begin to talk. And it is precisely there that they unfold their effect.

In the best case, the connection between my principles and my stance leads you to ask yourself afterwards: “Why do I feel better each time? We have only spoken.”

That would be the highest recognition my approach could receive.

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The Psychological Conversation

No therapy. No coaching – the conversation as its own format

Psychology is a wide field, and most of it unfolds beyond the borders of healthcare. Psychologists work in research, in industry, in education, in business, in politics and diplomacy, in ergonomics, and in many other domains.

It is concerned with what moves people – inwardly and outwardly: thinking, feeling, acting, learning, perceiving, deciding, and living together. Not only when something “no longer works,” but whenever people want to understand or shape themselves, others, and their world more deeply.

Psychotherapy is a specialised branch of this broad spectrum – and by no means the largest. Its purpose is clear: healing. It is important. Like the ship’s doctor on an ocean liner: indispensable when things become serious. But the psychological conversation is something qualitatively different. It is not the emergency ward. To stay with the image: it is the bridge, the salon, the wheelhouse.

As a confidant for people with the highest need for discretion, I do not work in the shadow of a diagnosis. I work in the light of freedom.

No insurance‑driven limitation to “the ill.” No dogmatic adherence to schools of therapy. No obligation to standardised evidence protocols. No duty to document within a healthcare system. No reduction of life questions to pathology. No verification of personal details. – Neither therapy nor coaching.

Instead: a conversation as its own format. Freedom of method. Freedom of thought. Equality of stance. A place where everything may be spoken – except illness. A space where my conversation partners are not patients, but guests: people with questions, decisions, and the wish to think together.

The psychological conversation is discreet, anonymisable, escrow‑capable. It is not part of a system – it is an alternative to it.

Those who come here do not seek a diagnosis. They seek clarity. Resonance. Orientation. And they find a conversation that does not confine – but opens a space for freedom.

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